I posted this back in 08 and it’s so good that I’m bringing it back.
Ten Commandments of Purity from Perry Noble.
- No other human relationship comes before my spouse.
- I shall remember the date night and keep it Holy (my phone will be off and in the car).
- I will always view my wife as my bride and the standard of beauty in my life.
- I will never think that I am above temptation. It’s by God’s grace that I have not fell.
- I shall not spend time alone or travel alone with a woman.
- I shall not talk about my spouse in a negative manner.
- I shall not ever discuss the intimate details of my marriage with anyone (especially another woman).
- I shall not watch pornography or expose myself to other illicit material that would cause me to lust and devalue my wife.
- I shall not confuse fantasy and reality.
- I shall remember the implications of breaking the seventh commandment (committing adultery).
The whole thing is riding on purity.
This thought is not original with me. I first heard it from my good friend Larry Brey but it’s not even original with Larry, it comes from God’s Word.
The Perception Principle is this: How you perceive someone is how you receive them.
This principle is huge. Take for instance Jesus in own hometown in Mark Chapter 6. The Son of God comes home and instead of them receiving him as who he was they received him as a common man (just a carpenter) and because of their perception of him, they missed out on a receiving what he had for them.
The awesome thing about principles is that they are usually universal. I believe that the Perception Principle is HUGE in our lives. If we perceive our spouses as nags guess how we receive them? If we perceive teenagers as worrisome trouble makers guess how we receive them. If you perceive your team as lazy or incompetent guess how you receive them?
And how you receive people is how you speak to them. If you perceive negative aspects, that’s all you speak to. However if you choose to perceive people based off of their potential and based off of God’s Word, then you speak to them in that light, you encourage, you coach, you believe the best!
Choose to perceive others through God’s eyes and not your own and see what happens!! I believe in you!!
The Dream Team at Lifepoint serves their tails off week in and week out and yesterday they got a blessing. We had 10 fresh, fired up volunteers that joined our setup team and 10 more that joined the tear down team.
Did it make a difference? You bet it did and the difference wasn’t an added difference, it was an exponential one.
These 10 people allowed our setup team to finish 45 minutes ahead of schedule and our tear down team to accomplish a 50 minute task in 30. Not only did they allow the team to be more efficient, their presence added life, energy and comradery to the team.
The awesome thing about these 20 people was that they were from another church. Life Community Church shut their doors yesterday and went out into the community to serve. How awesome is that? Lifepoint wasn’t the only place that their church was, but their presence was felt here.
So two very cool things happened yesterday. I saw how united the CHURCH is in our city and I saw how important it is for our teams to always continue to recruit, train and equip new team members. Teamwork makes the dream work and strong teams go farther, faster and stay in the game longer.
If you are old enough to drive a car you know what I am talking about. That spot that you can’t see in either mirror and when everything appears to be clear and you go to change lanes you hear a loud horn, two cars do this crazy swerve thing and then you wave at each other. That’s a blind-spot.
I was thinking about this in a leadership light yesterday. We all have blind-spots in our lives areas that we can’t see or understand. One of those blind-spots was made very evident to me. A huge blind-spot is created by our area of strength. Whatever it is that you are good at, you can’t understand or see why everyone isn’t good at that same thing.
For me, (and I say this as humbly as I can) it’s common sense. I am baffled when people can make a seemingly simple decision. Something that is so black and white yet they struggle to come to a logical conclusion. For my boss, it’s vision. He can’t understand why people can’t see farther down the road or why they can’t get up and share a picture that will inspire people to move. For each of us it will be different but it is there.
I have to be honest, this has been a frustration of mine for a long time and I am in the wrong. If we were all the same that would be useless. Imagine trying to put a puzzle together that all the pieces looked and were shaped just alike, it wouldn’t work. Same thing in life and leadership, a team is a group of people that fit together because they complete each other not compete with each other. We don’t need more people that have our gifting, we need to use our gifting to complete the team.
So, next time that you get frustrated with someone who doesn’t appear to have what you think they should, check and make sure that they aren’t in your blind-spot before you write them off. If they are, then you are there to complete them.
I have not blogged much about my coaching gig this year or our team (twitter has hurt my blogging) so I wanted to update everyone.
Some of you may recall that last year was a dream season. We went 15-0 and won the state championship 28-0. It was awesome.
This years team is very different from last years. Last years team only trailed in a game once. This year we have trailed in every game, however we are 9-1, we have won 7 straight conference championships, went 7-0 in the conference for the 4th straight year and are the #2 seeded team in the 4AA playoffs that start tonight.
Another thing that is different this year is that this team is very spiritual. Over half of the kids pray after pracitice and after the games. They have gathered around both players and coaches that were down and prayed for them and just this week our starting running backs brother was murdered and the team has rallied behind him.
Will we win it all again this year? I don’t know but I do think the kids on this team will make a difference in this world for years to come and that’s the championship that excites me.
My next few post are from notes I took at NewSpring Church two weeks ago. This session was with Perry Noble.
This post is on four things for staff to be. Here is Perry’s words.
- If you have an un-thankful staff member you need to cast vision on them or fire them.
- Un-thankfulness for all that God has done will cause us to miss what he wants to do.
- The hardest staff to lead is un-thankful staff.
- The most stressed pastors or the least grateful ones.
- Dishonest always leads to dysfunction.
- Integrity and honesty go hand and hand.
- When being sensitive trumps being honest, it’s over.
- If you are not being honest, you are crippling your ministry and your church.
Be a good steward.
- Do what you will say you will do.
- I don’t expect perfection because I can’t produce it. I just expect your best.
- Apathy can not be afforded on a staff ever.
- Be aware of our motives. Why do I do what I do? If Jesus isn’t in the answer, then you need to do some soul searching.
- Be aware of God’s movement. It fires some up and ticks some off.
- Be aware of Purity. My job is to make sure that I am useful to God. 2 Tim 20 & 21.
More on Purity tomorrow!!
We are here! After an mere 26 hours of travel we are in Fortaleza, Brazil. I am exhausted and excited.
From what I saw of Brazil from the plane it is a beautiful country. This city is huge and has both beauty and nasty going on. The setting on the shoreline is awesome! The culture here is so different, there is obviously no zoning because you have high end buildings right beside ones that look like a bomb hit them. Graffiti is everywhere. We were walking on the street about an hour ago and I saw a man try to steal a guys drink from him, the guy resisted and the fellow just kicked him in the butt and sent him down the road.
I ate breakfast as soon as we got here this morning and then proceeded crash and burn like the Hindenburg. I woke up in a puddle of drool two hours later. Man that felt good!
Don’t know what my internet access will be like this week but if I can I will blog. Keep praying for us daily. My prayer this morning was that I would be in tune to how and where God wants to use me this week (and everyweek for that matter).
Pray for the team to regain their strength today before we head to Ubauna.