What Church Staff Wish Their Pastors Knew

This is part 2 from my notes at NewSpring Chruch in SC. These notes are intended for Senior Pastors.

What the staff wishes their Pastor knew.

1. Tell me what you expect of me.

  • You can’t hold people accountable for unspoken expectations.
  • Your staff want to do a great job. They want you to trust them.

2. Give me time (to get the job done).

  • People will work weekends and days off when it is the exception not the norm.
  • Get three weeks ahead.
  • Ask how much time will it take to do this.

3. Thank you goes a long way.

  • Pastor, when was the last time you said “thanks” to a staff member?
  • Pastors, we need to be in the business of saying “thanks!”  Trust me…it goes a long way for someone on staff to feel affirmed and appreciated.

4. Give me permission to fail.

  • We can never use fear as a motivator.
  • If a staff member fails chasing vision, you have to reward them.

5. Understand that I have a life.

  • One of the biggest problems in churches today is the fact that many staff members are COMPLETELY FRIED because of a schedule that is demanding and demoralizing.
  • As a pastor–one of the things I MUST champion is the protection of the people that I serve with.  I MUST understand that they need time to relax.  I MUST understand that they need time with their families.  I MUST understand that the more rested and refreshed they are the better they will do their jobs!

6. Let me take things off your plate.

  • Pastors, let me make you a promise–there are things that you are doing RIGHT NOW that some of your staff members are begging God that you would stop doing them because…well…your not that good at them.

7. Ask my opinion.

  • As a pastor my job is to lead and to listen to my people.
  • God placed me as the pastor over this staff for two reasons…to lead them AND to listen to them.

    AND…the only reason a senior pastor would not value the opinion of the people he serves with is because he is insecure (and an idiot!)

What Pastor’s Wish Their Staff Knew

This is my notes from a round table at NewSpring Church in SC. The following is for church staff members.

What your pastor wishes you knew.

1. I need positive attitudes.

  • Negative people are always draining.
  • Don’t ever tell me we can’t do something. Tell me we can land the plane on the stage but we have to buy the property next door and build a 4 billion dollar airport. (We can and here is the cost).

2. You will never feel the weight I feel.

  • The target on the pastors back is 100 times bigger that the one on yours. Satan wants to take him out and this will kill the church.
  • The health of every ministry and every person weighs on me.

3. Don’t settle for good enough.

4. Please get along.

  • He doesn’t need to counsel staff members.

5. Don’t surprise me.

  • If you tell me on Saturday, I might get upset but I can deal with it before I get on stage.

6. Never say that’s not my job.

  • If you say that’s not my job then your job will not be your job.

7. Protect me.

  • The pastor has got to know that you have his back.
  • As your church grows the disunity factor will be pastor to staff not pastor to congregation.
  • As long as the respect level stays where it should you can say anything to me.
  • Don’t throw people under the bus.

Four Things For Staff To Be

My next few post are from notes I took at NewSpring Church two weeks ago. This session was with Perry Noble.

This post is on four things for staff to be. Here is Perry’s words.

Be thankful.

  • If you have an un-thankful staff member you need to cast vision on them or fire them.
  • Un-thankfulness for all that God has done will cause us to miss what he wants to do.
  • The hardest staff to lead is un-thankful staff.
  • The most stressed pastors or the least grateful ones.

Be honest.

  • Dishonest always leads to dysfunction.
  • Integrity and honesty go hand and hand.
  • When being sensitive trumps being honest, it’s over.
  • If you are not being honest, you are crippling your ministry and your church.

Be a good steward.

  • Do what you will say you will do.
  • I don’t expect perfection because I can’t produce it. I just expect your best.
  • Apathy can not be afforded on a staff ever.

Be aware.

  • Be aware of our motives. Why do I do what I do? If Jesus isn’t in the answer, then you need to do some soul searching.
  • Be aware of God’s movement. It fires some up and ticks some off.
  • Be aware of Purity. My job is to make sure that I am useful to God. 2 Tim 20 & 21.

More on Purity tomorrow!!

    From One Fast To Another

    I know that most fast are private and I am down with that but I am making this public for accountability sake.

    As a staff and as a church we just came off of a Daniel Fast (you can read about the Daniel Fast here ) and it was awesome!! I feel healthier. I felt a great connection with God and I will definetly do it again.

    Now I am going on another fast! Actually two fast! Here is the deal: for the next 21 days I am going on and EGO fast and a NEGATIVITY fast. Meaning this, any communication that I put out (email, blog, twitter, newsletters, etc.) I will avoid both negativity and my personal preferences.

    For the EGO part of it, I am going to attempt to avoid the following words in my communication: I, me, mine, my and instead replace these words with we, us and our. I am trying to focus more on giving things away and building teams, so this will force me to think this way.

    For the negativity part, this is a no brainer but I feel drift in this area of my life, so I want to get back on track. I am praying that I will reflect Jesus with my attitude in all situations and circumstances and that’s not where I am right now.

    So it starts now and with your help WE can do this!!!

    I’m back!!!

    Okay, by now there are only 2 of you reading this but for both of you, I just want to say that I am back! Blogging has taken a back seat over the last few months but I am feeling it again now so I will blog at least twice this week!!